Below is a discussion with Marsha Turley, from Lamar, CO, about addiction and possible solutions in the Lamar area. She talks about the options parents have in raising their children to be responsible adults, and applications of a community to solve the problems created in an addictive society. We don’t have to keep raising victims, there are solutions. We have them in our hands. Let’s use them!
There are actually lots of people who want to help in our community it’s a growing and a learning process. Substance Abuse Task Force meetings are the first Wednesday of each month at 1:15 at the High Plains Adult Clinic. You are welcome to become part of the solution.
I’m sorry but jail does not help addicts. There are no programs or very little programs that address addiction while incarcerated. Not to mention you can’t court order someone into sobriety, they have to be treatment ready. I think holding people accountable is key but addicts have no money. So why not order them to pay for the services through a community service program ran by mentors who have a passion for empowering people to strive for a better life?
This way they have a positive influence that cares, repaying their debt for services used and make rehab/treatment resources available for those who are ready for the commitment of sobriety. If they choose not to comply, then go with jail time. Read the Article.
Sometimes incarceration is the only way to get them sober enough to make a decision to be sober. Sometimes the bad comes with the good.
I disagree, I see this scenario daily. Incarceration makes them bitter, makes their struggle harder. They don’t benefit from incarceration whatsoever.
The only purpose incarceration serves is keeping them off the street until they choose to get help. I deal with this on a large scale both professionally and personally. Jail doesn’t help it’s a means to an end to remove from society those who won’t choose sobriety.
What helps people get sober is people who care and are passionate mentors to lend a hand navigating the path alongside them without enabling or belittling them. Empowering them to understand the process and loving them through it. Addicts are broken souls that need love and compassion.
Some need tough love for a while. But once they are ready for a new life and want sobriety, they need support and understanding not jail time.
My point is, there are some who stay drunk and addicted, because they’re never sober long enough to make that choice. If not incarcerated they can find ways to get alcohol, drugs, or alternatives, to keep themselves drunk, and addicted.
If there’s an alternative for that… What is it?
Detox facilities are a great resource, but we don’t have enough of them. These facilities have the resources to see a person through the harsh realities of coming off these drugs (it’s not pretty) as well as access to treatment facilities, counselors and programs for families.
The problem is we keep looking at addiction as “the addicts problem” this is a family problem, a community problem and ultimately it’s Our problem! Addicts become addicted because our society is failing to raise healthy, stable individuals. Families are broken, our youth are lacking basic coping skills and have become “victims” in their mentality.
Our children our being raised selfishly and don’t have common decency anymore. So people grow up and cope with problems in negative ways because they have broken mentalities.
Once addicted the physical/chemical makeup of their brains now have an additional problem that is difficult to deal with from a personal, medical and physiological standpoint. No one wants to accept responsibility for it, just point fingers and pass it off to someone else.
This is an issue that the solution starts in our homes, raising compassionate, decent, responsible and STABLE children who know their life is in their hands and the world is their oasis. Who understand how to deal with their personal emotions and that no one is responsible for their happiness but them, to instill the golden rule of treating others as we want to be treated. And then instilling a sense of community where people help their neighbors and everyone plays a role in the well-being of their community.
Everyone getting involved and helping raise healthy generations. And the remedy for those already addicted is compassion and boundaries. The more people who choose to be a part of the solution instead of acting like its “someone else’s problem” the better.
Accountability is key, I’m not saying not to hold people responsible for their actions, but we also need to acknowledge and reward good choices and not hold every bad decision over their head. Build on the positive and lift up their mentality. Show them people are rooting for their success, not expecting their failure.
This disease can touch any one of us. If you think you and your family are immune, think again. Addiction does not discriminate. I don’t wish it upon anyone but the issue is real. It touches poverty stricken families, the richest families, the Christian, Muslim, budist, atheist….Doesn’t matter.. status, religion, or otherwise. When it touches close to home be educated, understand what you are dealing with and work together to be the solution.
Not condemning here. My experience thus far is extremely limited. The only ones I’ve known and had any influence over thus far were not addicted to drugs, but rather alcohol, and would drink mouthwash, or cold meds, to get their ‘fix’. If there were more information available in ways that could be shared, I think it would be helpful.
Information such as how to hold someone accountable, or how to find a way to get someone help? I don’t know the answers, but I have tools that I can and would use to get the information out there, available to others.
We are planning a “Navigating the World of Addiction” workshop in Lamar in April. (Details to come) hopefully packing the house with as many people as we can to provide this information to those who need it. It’ll be free and open to All. You are most welcome. If you can’t make it I’d be happy to provide the resources. The gentlemen that is putting it on is from Denver.
I’ll be posting more information on this event as soon as it is available.